Expecting a baby and the birth of a child -

these are undoubtedly the biggest changes in life and are celebrated with various rituals and celebrations in different cultural spaces. The custom of bringing gifts to the mother of a newborn child and welcoming the new citizen of the world was and still is widespread in Estonia and elsewhere in Europe. American-style baby showers are also becoming increasingly popular in Estonia.

Baby shower

The main purpose of the baby shower is to give gifts to the baby and have fun playing baby-themed games. The most popular baby shower games are predicting the baby's birth date, height, and weight; writing down baby-related vocabulary (e.g. in emojis); blindfolding baby food; guessing the prices of baby accessories; changing diapers on a baby doll while blindfolded, etc. Baby shower is also suitable for revealing the baby's gender, although completely separate parties are also held for this purpose. Baby shower gifts are usually material and practical.

Lack of emotional support

My experience as a postpartum doula shows, that:

Mothers are not lacking material things, but emotional and physical support.

Mothers have never been more isolated than they are today, with generations no longer living together and support groups far away or non-existent. A woman going through the biggest change of her life needs recognition, understanding, care and support on both a physical and emotional level. An African proverb is not exaggerating when it says that it takes a village to raise a child. 

Baby shower “Mother blessing”

And so the “Mother blessing” baby shower was born, where the expectant mother literally receives care and other care from her support group and the knowledge that she has been cared for both during pregnancy and after the baby is born. To organize a party that celebrates the journey of motherhood and empowers the expectant mother, I have been inspired by Native America, where a 9-day sacred ceremony was held to support the expectant mother, during which stories were told, the pregnant woman was cared for, and surrender to the primal power of nature that manifests itself during childbirth. The pregnant woman’s strength and creativity were honored.

Although the basic elements of our gathering come from ancient traditions, then each party is different, depending on the wishes, expectations and topics that the mother-to-be and the support group want to emphasize. We create a support circle, release fears, offer the mother pleasant care, share support and heartfelt gifts, tell inspiring stories and learn about funny customs, increase the mother's energy level so that she has the strength to step boldly and supported into her new role as the mother of the unborn baby. As an educational part, I have put together lectures on the postpartum period, from which the group can choose the topic that speaks to them the most. This way, you can acquire or consolidate knowledge about the corner bed period or the first 40 days, the beautiful breastfeeding relationship, postpartum changes in the brain (baby brain), maintaining closeness with the older child, a postpartum plan or foods that promote recovery. If the group and the pregnant woman wish, we can also incorporate some classic baby shower games into the event. But the focus is always on the mother and her birth into the role of mother. It is also important to celebrate the motherhood journey of women who have already had several children, because each journey is different and special.

About me

I am running this powerful event as a mother of two children through two very different experiences and as a postpartum doula and lactation consultant. I have been training women since 2012, when I first encountered the girls' night out groups. I have always been fascinated by the strength and wisdom of women and the strong connection that arises between women when they truly open their hearts to each other.

I am deeply grateful to all the women who have made this magic possible for me, and I look forward to new groups so that mothers can be noticed, cared for, and supported on their journey to motherhood.

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A: “Thank you! Today was very beautiful and lovely for all of us. Thank you for sharing your positive energy!”

K: “I want to thank you on behalf of myself and everyone else at yesterday’s party. Thank you for helping to create such a nurturing and supportive atmosphere. I’m glad I got to meet you and introduce you to others. It seemed like you touched others in addition to me.”

R: “The expectant mother was very satisfied and sincerely thanked us for making the event according to her wishes”